Treebing you are correct that earthworms are not inheriently good for every soil or tree. In argriculture there are some concerns that excessive macropores lead to water movement too deep into soils (away from roots). In natural systems, around the great lakes, we see earth worms invading forests, eating the duff layer and a consequent loss of regeneration of plants, particularly spring ephemerals. We can also see loss of regeneration of certain duff-dependent species of trees. In urban areas Norway Maples can easily become the dominate species.
As for grass, clearly some trees and grass occur together in select natural ecosystems. The classifications that come to mind are prairies, savanas, (oak) parklands and alvars. In each case the types of grasses tending to be dominated by clumbing grasses. Typical lawns are composed of grasses that are creeping and replicate from extensive tillers. These grasses are grown for that reason, they are highly competitive, clumping grasses leave large spaces between clumps.
Grass becomes a further problem in that its culture is generally bad for trees; no duff layer, excessive fertilizers, syntethic pesticides, and shallow watering.