Still in a similar boat.
For me rigging a big piece over a house isn’t the issue, or worried about damage. I trust my rigging ability. I guess when I’m in a bigger tree I don’t feel I move around it like I do a smaller one. I hesitate, I’m nervous. On smaller trees I’ll jump from limb to limb, swing from tree to tree, no problem lol. But the bigger stem, bigger branches, it gets to me.
In reality it’s just the same tree just bigger, but the size puts me in a different mindset I guess.
If I want to be a better climber it’s somethjng im gonna have to deal with. I limit my ability because of the fear.
I'm going to speak rock-climber ease a minute.
When we were first learning "trad" climbing, on lead, the climber take a widget and widgets it into the crack or rock feature, attaches to said widget with the dynamic climbing rope, then climbs above the widget, getting another widget in the crack and attaching the rope to the wall, climbing above it, etc. Feels like rock climbing with an extra 15 pounds swinging around, in your way, that will just help you fall faster to your death when all the widgets pull out of the crack and you hit the boulders below. Very reassuring, right?
We were working on a 5.8. Stuff hard climbers were climbing in the 60's, with pitons.
We were at a crag, and this guy waltzed up a hard ass crack, 5.11 c/d, plugging in a widget hear and there. No big deal. This was in the catagory of waaaay past climbable in the 60's. They only made the free-climbing (progress by your body, gear to catch a fall, which could be 40' if things go badly) scale go up to 5.9, because then you hit the 6.0 grade (aid climbing, needing to pull on your gear for progress A0, A1, A2...).
I spoke with the guy, whose name may come to me. He said that he was taught the mantra for rock climbing...
Climbing is fun.
My gear is good.
Falling is safe.
Climbing is fun.
My gear is good.
Falling is safe.
If any of these conditions isn't true, what are you doing it for?
So trees are obviously different.
A mantra can help.
Climbing is fun (tree work is hard and potentially dangerous, though...but try to maintain a positive attitude).
My Gear is Good.
I will safely stay where I want to be.
If any of these is a problem, there is After Lunch, Later, Tomorrow, whatever. Having a plan is great. Forecasting how long the plan will take (my crystal ball is cloudy on time-estimating), and sticking adamantly to that plan (I can get x,y,z done today) is not great.
End of Day plan, everyone arrives in driveways in one piece, mentally and physically. That the milestone you need to reach EVERY day, not worrying about what you told the customer about timing, what you told yourself, what you told your dog.