in my experience (not massive but I have worked with a few different guys running mills), it hasn't been a concern about letting it dry before milling. often, folks will paint or apply wax to the butts to slow down the drying process (this reduces checking, splits in the ends).
One choice is to mill it green, and build with it green, the material will dry together evenly (it can actually tighten itself together as it shrinks). if you do this, avoid having it somewhere that the piece will dry out rapidly; keep it in a cool spot for a few seasons.
Again, this isn't bible, but generally getting it milled as soon as reasonable, and then doing a proper job stacking it (mill stickers as you go, and make sure they are the same thickness so everything lays flat). you can build a sort of mini-greenhouse kiln with plastic, or bring it to a true kiln somewhere.
If the log is gonna lay, just seal the ends up and get to it before it begins gathering moisture from being on the ground.
just general insights, others with more experience may have deeper details.