Stress reliving tactics

Jman

Jman

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Ever since I quit smoking I get really angry and pissed off much easier and I tend to stay that way. There isn't anymore instance relief and I am having some issues on relaxing when things get out of hand. Does anyone have something like count down from 10? Or has someone found out that a stress ball had worked? I quit smoking to add years to my life not taken them off. Maybe it’s still too soon to tell only been quit since Jan 1st. Does this get easier with time? I smoked for 7 or 8 years mostly though the end half of high school and all of college. So I’m probably missing some coping skills. Any help would be appreciated.
 
Anything physical works for me. I can't imagine not having an outlet for stress. My doctor actually encouraged me to drink a beer a day,(good news for once) Also being prepared and more organised takes alot of the stress out of the situation. Be careful with the beer thing as it does'nt work for everyone and could have some pretty nasty consequences.
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I follow the beer rule pretty religiously. So that’s good to hear. I need to start laughing and shrugging things off. All the other crap I’ve found on the net isn't promising; find a nice quite place, a comfortable position, or Yoga.
 
Re: Stress relieving tactics

Anything to slow down a reaction to whatever is causing the stress. Counting does work. Taking three breaths, in the nose out the mouth makes me mellow. Acting but not reacting is a slogan that I heard in a seminar once.

Glad to hear that you quit smoking!

PS-I just noticed the typo in the thread title:reliving or relieving? I got a nice chuckle out of the implications of either way to deal with stress
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i know that your job is physical but working out in some type of manner will help, i know this first hand! it is proven that physical activity will relieve stress and anxiety, try something you like and give it a go, jiu-jitsu for me has been a blessing, i also rock climb and that works as well!
 
I quit a high stress management job, ultimately getting into tree work, because my BP was 180/140. I was so stressed I was ready to stroke. Talk about hotheaded.

For me two things brought my BP back down and my stress under control.
1) Hard exercise almost every day. As my body got stronger, so did my head.
2) This one is the key... everything you encounter at work... and I mean EVERYTHING... is little [bad word]. <this when censors ruin a sound statement> A loved one who's sick or in trouble -- big [bad word]... everything else -- little [bad word]. Lose $1000 on a job? Little [bad word]. Guy quits and leaves you in a lurch? Little [bad word]. You get the idea. If it can be fixed or gotten past, it's little [bad word].

Letting little [bad word] get to you is weakness. Are you weak? No, you're a climber. Don't let the little [bad word] get to you. You can control it but you have to do it actively, it doesn't just happen.

Are you a crew leader? If you're a leader and you let [bad word] get to you, you're undermining your own authority. It's easy to blow off someone who gets hot under the collar and peole will do just that. The minute you get hot and show it... you lose.


I'm not saying don't get angry, that's normal. I'm saying get a grip on it; control it so that it doesn't control you.


Yes quitting smoking will cause you to get short tempered but it's temporary. Don't give up because you'll have to do the whole pissy hothead thing again next time you try to quit. Gut it out, stay clean and live better for it.

Just what makes a word bad anyway?
 
Very sound idea Blinky. My pops told me to only worry about two things in life. One did someone get seriously injured or die? Second did you lose a VERY large sum of money. Other than that don't sweat it.

I did try Tom's breathing and really like it. I got whipped in the head today with a leafless branch and was about to break out into the regular swearing but I tried the breathing and it slowed me down.

No, I'm just a climber. I'm not in any Forman/leadership position but I still try and lead when I need to or have to. I would like to be someone my guys and work with and trust in a leadership position. It’s only been four months and getting outside help is the trick to my anger/stress issue.

I might try running. I did judo in college for a little bit but since I'm on a budget to try and buy a house in the next year I might stick with running. My dog will also love me for not going back to judo.
 
Everyone should read The Way of The Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman. It's full of great stuff like this.

"You can do nothing to change the past, and the future will never came exactly as you expect or hope for. There have never been past warriors, nor will there be future ones. The warrior is HERE, NOW. Your sorrow, your fear and anger, regret and guilt, your envy and plans and cravings live only in the past or in the future."

Reading is a great stress reliever.
 
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surfing makes me stress free try a Hobie something you love
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True that! Being in the tips of a big old tree in a stiff breeze calms me down every time.
 
Oh ya running is also a great stress reliever. Try to hit the trails if possible. Nothing beats a good trail run. Just take it real easy at first, nothing wrong with running a couple minutes then walking a minute.
 
This has slowly became my hobby. Well splicing has, but after a while you run out of things to splice. Surfing isn't so great at Va beach, I'm about 30-45 mins from the actual beach front. I am still tempted. I might break out the skateboard and try having the dog run along with me.

I have a few books coming in the mail, which should help too. I'm very thankful for all the responses. It is giving me alot of options to choose from and I love it.
 
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Everyone should read The Way of The Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman. It's full of great stuff like this.

"You can do nothing to change the past, and the future will never came exactly as you expect or hope for. There have never been past warriors, nor will there be future ones. The warrior is HERE, NOW. Your sorrow, your fear and anger, regret and guilt, your envy and plans and cravings live only in the past or in the future."

Reading is a great stress reliever.

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That is a great book, and the movie that is out on it is pretty good too.

Check out Dan's site.

http://www.danmillman.com//index.php?option=com_frontpage&Itemid=1
 
In the past few days i've been really working on not getting stressed out and it really works. I just have to keep it in mind that there isn't any reason why i should be getting pissed. Take a few breaths like Tom said and I'm good to go.
 
Good to hear. Being constantly aware of your mind is key. Once the anger has developed it is already too late. By being constantly mindful you catch the negative emotion before it has a chance to blossom and take hold of you.
 
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Oh ya running is also a great stress reliever. Try to hit the trails if possible. Nothing beats a good trail run. Just take it real easy at first, nothing wrong with running a couple minutes then walking a minute.

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Couldn't agree more, though I have a bad knee (from running) so I have to be careful (PITA).

Great thread...this thread epitomizes TB for me...important topic and great mix of helpful knowledgeable responses from a group of caring quality people!!
 
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