due to the angle of the codom, the cable wasn't pulling straight back against the crotch... the crotch ripped out and the lead swung out away from the house and just hung there, cable in tact. So in a way the cable did its job of protecting property.
I don;t buy anything but 5/8" j lags. I do not understand why anyone would . did a video awhile back about cable failure due to small lags and low placement...
I use a smaller bit for silver maple... if you lube the threads up with some soap, they turn in much easier, even when they are tight like that. I'd guess that the cables you saw pulled out were also set too low. I don't stop at 2/3 up from the crotch, that's a minimum. Usually go higher..