I just want to apologize for acting like an asshole. I regret and am embarrassed by this thread and some of the things I have wrote and bringing my own personal stuff onto a tree forum.
You guy's have tried to help, and I try to show gratitude but I also know I've done a good job of acting like I don't care at times, or being confrontational, etc. And even though it's just a forum, that's not cool. As I've said before, I've developed some friendships on here, and I value those friendships and the connections with others in the tree care / tree climbing community. It is a unique community after all.
Ultimately though I need to take responsibility and figure things out.
Good Morning,
My niece used to tell me that she enjoyed my "drunk-dialing" her when I was loaded, but that's at least in part because I'm a "happy drunk," and even happier when I'm stoned. However, I also sometimes think that only I can see the world clearly at those moments and--as my wife would tell you--that's pure bullshit.
I have many times risen the next morning to find that I'd sent out some very embarrassing/hurtful/counterproductive messages in voicemails, emails, and sometimes in hand-written letters that I thankfully hadn't sent yet. That's why, nowadays, when I do get a buzz on, I promise myself not to go anywhere near the phone, PC, or email. I do that by leaving my phone behind and not turning on the PC.
Instead, I muck about in my basement making/fixing stuff, go for a walk, or simply wander around in nature. I typically get some really cool projects built--even if I do sometimes wonder the next day who built them. Not only are the results more rewarding in real time, but I no longer need to worry that even my heartfelt, best-intended opinions will come back to bite me.
Hey, I'm not suggesting that you shouldn't reach out to us at any time, by any means possible, but staying away from your communication devices might motivate you to find more enjoyable pastimes, and you might find that the vicious cycle of overstatements and apologies goes away. (That cycle is enough to make me drink all by itself.)
Our carefully-crafted social media thoughts can be dangerously misinterpreted when we're sober, and seldom represent our best work when we're not.
Please share more of your thoughts in the light of day; we'd all like to hear those. But when you do need immediate help, know that we are right here.
All the best,
John