BOL Missing Climbing Gear

That sucks! Sometimes makes it harder to trust people, but can also make you appreciate those whom have earned your trust.

This is why I like some horses and dogs better than most people.
 
Just got back from Identifying my gear at PD. They took pictures and let me take it home.

A lot of stuff is still missing including an Ecrin Rock helmet with muffs, handsaw and scabbard, bunches of carabiners and at least two, if not more CMI 2" rescue pullies.

The guy who was selling the stuff has contacted me and apologized in a roundabout way. Wants to meet to apologize and pay me for the stolen stuff.

So far the most honest thing he has offered is that he hopes I won't press charges.

I don't think he understands that in this state I have no say in whether charges are filed or not. I only get advisory input into plea bargains and sentencing. Otherwise everything is up to the state.

I got most of the important stuff back but I am really hurting for the pulleys. I wasn't able to swing replacing them with the insurance settlement check so I've been borrowing.

Anyhow, the kid accused of stealing this stuff has a great opportunity here to turn his life around. If you are of the praying type please offer some up for him specifically that he will take this gracefully, like a man and with full acceptance of responsibility and in the process use it to become a better person for it.

I've known him long enough to know that he wants to change his life for the better. Lets see if we can help him in the spiritual world to help make that happen.

ThanX for following this and letting me vent!
 
He'll be in mine.

I appreciate the class in which you are handling it, Rick. I know there is a part of you that wants to do other things, but it's good to hear the changed part of you is winning the battle.

Blessings.
 
yup, nicer than me. I am done showing mercy and respect to anyone who steals from me, don't even care if they want to make themselves better. I would tell that kid I want to meet him to square up on the gear, and I would punch him right in the eye. I know I am a jerk for saying that, but it is 100% true. People have stolen my motorcycle, my truck, my gear, parts off of my work trucks, my money, and I don't know what else. I am unfortunately still bitter about each one of them. I am sure that if I could catch any of these pieces of crap, they wouldn't even get in any trouble over it, that's the way the law works. I am so very glad that you were able to recover at least most of your gear.
 
forgiveness is they key to contentment. http://www.gospel.com/blog/index.php/2010/03/01/todays-devotional-more-than-just-im-sorry/ The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant

21Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?"
22Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.[f]

23"Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand talents[g] was brought to him. 25Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.

26"The servant fell on his knees before him. 'Be patient with me,' he begged, 'and I will pay back everything.' 27The servant's master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.

28"But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii.[h] He grabbed him and began to choke him. 'Pay back what you owe me!' he demanded.

29"His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, 'Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.'

30"But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. 31When the other servants saw what had happened, they were greatly distressed and went and told their master everything that had happened.

32"Then the master called the servant in. 'You wicked servant,' he said, 'I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. 33Shouldn't you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?' 34In anger his master turned him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.

35"This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart."
 
Inspiring to see compassion. Too many times we are quick to be angry at others when all of us are imperfect. I am guilty of this and your incident reminds me to forgive as others have for me.
 
Forgive?... Yes because it's good for me and easier on my heart... Forget?... Never! I don't believe that forgiveness necessarily entails continuing a "business" relationship with the guy. I'm not saying you should hold a grudge cause that's not good for you either...I just think that you'd be way too nice to continue to mentor him. FWIW
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whats the old saying ....... f me once and it's your fault, f'm twice and it's my fault. i agree with that saying. we must defend ourselves, but we must do so with compassion and forgiveness and thats a tough row to hoe.
 
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

or according to W

"There's an old saying in Tennessee — I know it's in Texas, probably in Tennessee — that says, fool me once, shame on — shame on you. Fool me — you can't get fooled again." —President George W. Bush
 
apologizing , seeking forgiveness and a willingness to change .... first step ..... actually changing , earning you trust .... second step , also maybe replace the missing pulleys .... Dave
 
Yeah, I know I'm evil, thanks for the sermon. At least you can know that I'm gonna tell the truth, anyway. I could be all politically or religiously correct and say that I hope the best for the thieves, but it would be a big fat lie. I hope they get what's coming to them, they knew it was wrong when they did it. I haven't been on the Buzz much lately, but if you go back very far, you will see that I don't worry too much when someone who doesn't know anything about me passes judgment on me. I am not perfect, not even close. I have a lot of work to do on myself, I'll keep trying. In the meantime, I'm punching that guy in the eye.
 
Noel, I don't think we are that far apart on this.

Forgiveness does not mean removal of consequences nor does it mean blind trust must be given the offender. Forgiveness never has. In fact, quite the opposite is true.

Every action has a consequence and in this case the state will hand out that consequence.

The offender has also very much burned the trust bridge with me. I cannot and do not have to believe a single word he says. Even if I forgive him, he still has to deal with the consequence of lost trust.

Trust is not given, it is earned.

Meantime, I can still offer forgiveness which simply means I will not use his offense against me as a tool or weapon for my own gain in the future.

I will still remember and I will still question his motives and actions in the future. And, he may never earn my trust again. That too may well be a consequence of his actions.

But I do have to allow for the possibility that he may be able to earn my trust again.

After he is tried, convicted and sentenced I will not stand in the way of the court, nor will I take joy in what his punishment will be.

Again, from my POV I know from where I've come and can empathize with where he is.

The best thing advise I ever got, and could give this guy, comes from an old sage I know:

"If you get busted, shut up and take it.

"If you get punished, shut up and take it.

"And if you don't get punished, shut up and take it."
 
The story is getting a little brighter!

I ended up speaking with the kid's father the a couple of weeks ago. The kid had mentioned the bag had at one time been in his dad's garage so I asked his father if we could take a look around.

Dad was more than gracious and helped us look around the garage, shed, attic and even the boy's old room. Though we didn't find anything it was very much a positive experience for both his father and me.

Then early last week his Dad sent me an email saying that some gear had shown up in the garage and invited me to come check it out. Well, it wasn't much, most belonged to his boy but there was my old lanyard, ascender stirrup and a rope snap.

Then Easter Eve his dad leaves me another message. He was cleaning the boys old room out and found a ditty bag with some pulleys. Sure enough, my pulleys!

Anyhow, that now leaves the ecrin helmet with muffs and about one to two dozen carabiners about evenly split between petzl ball lock williams and omega spinlock and non-locking aluminum biners still missing.

Dad said he would keep me informed as they continue clearing out his room. if he finds any gear he'll call me to come look at it.

Dad is truly an upstanding man, gracious, and honorable even in the midst of his boy's shenanigans.

Hat's off to Dad!

Now I am anxiously awaiting word back from the insurance company on how to handle the recovery. Since they paid out on this stuff technically I may have to reimburse them for the items recovered.

I've contacted my agent twice already and they have passed word on to the adjusters, so now we just have to sit and wait.

Anyhow, just thought you'd like to know!
 
funny thing--while cleaning out my garage I found some more small pulleys, so after all I could have bartered some to you when you were here, and you would now have too many!

Pleasure working with you--glad you're home safe.
 
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